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Tidbit Tuesday

Just another sloppy, unedited installment of the random thoughts rolling around in my head today…

Glad that we escaped the 3-6 inches of snow they predicted although being able to stay home would be nice. It has just begun to snow a bit – not sure what they are calling for now but I don’t think it will be too bad until maybe this evening. Hopefully it will hold off till late.

My son and I are supposed to go to a reception at the Tech Shop. He received a scholarship for a year’s membership and there is a reception tonight to meet the people who awarded the scholarships. It is a fantastic opportunity – he is attending a 16 week Saturday session to learn about the different machines and create some projects. Later in the summer he will be able to attend a week long camp and he can go in on certain Saturdays to work on projects. So far he has been having a blast.

I’m back to struggling a bit because I dithered around too long and had to make a choice between the lesser of two evils and I’m not sure I made the right choice. I’ve chosen to help keep my husband’s dream alive; keep my son in a school that I feel will give him a good chance at being successful through its academic requirements and its post high school financial support; and stay in my(still unfinished) dream house. It means I’m no longer looking for my dream job instead I’m going back to helping my husband in his business.  I’m not sure how long this will go on but I know that I’m setting boundaries this time. It will not be an open ended adventure. Still not sure what that is going to look like but I’m working on it.

It looks like my uncle will not be the executor of my dad’s will. We were  pretty sure that would be the case but now it is definite. I may need to go down to help out – it depends on my sister and how she decides to handle her financial situation. I need to look into some legal issues to make sure that we are making the best decisions for both of us.

I’m also trying to prepare for a wedding. My daughter has decided to get married next month. It will be a small affair and she doesn’t want much help from me but there are a few things she would like me to help with and of course I need to find something to wear.

What’s going on in your neck of the woods? Leave me a comment and let me know how you are.

 

 

Tidbit Tuesday

Just another sloppy, unedited installment of the thoughts rolling around in my head today…

It’s been awhile since I ‘ve posted – there has been a lot of soul searching going on here. Various factors have combined to make it necessary to make some household changes and it has been a difficult time. Lots of anger, disappointment, frustration, resentment and regret surfacing and needing to be dealt with. Things are not settled and probably won’t be for awhile but we have made some tentative plans and hopefully we’ll manage to keep things going.

I’ve decided not to grow anything this year – I’m just going to work on maintaining the areas that have been cleaned out and try and get some more areas cleared. There isn’t money to have someone come in and clear out the orchard so that is one area to work on. I still need to finish the island bed, take care of the compost area, and then the area between the orchard and the vegetable beds needs a lot of work done to it. That is more than enough to keep me busy over the summer.

With the possibility of  downsizing and moving in our near future, I need to work on getting the girl, the boy and myself to go through our stuff and get rid of things that no longer brings us any pleasure. I’ve begun reading Marie Kondo’s book, the life changing magic of tidying up, and it is definitely giving me some ideas. I’m not sure I agree with everything(I know I will be leaving books for last) but it certainly does make you think.

Down to 8 more days of school and as usual I am not ready to have my solitude taken away. I’ve scheduled some camps and am working on a daily schedule to hopefully make the days go smoothly.

Having trouble typing because there is something wrong with my thumb. Many months ago I got a tiny sliver of glass stuck in my thumb and ever since then I have had problems. At first it seemed like it had worked its way out but then a few weeks later it seemed to be back.  This continued several times until I decided that maybe it was actually warts that were developing and then going away. Just recently it seemed to be more like a blood blister that finally broke open but the thumb is still sore.

Did finally schedule  mammogram and gynecology appointments. I guess the next thing is a dermatology appointment to see about some blotches on my hands, arms and legs. Ugh, it is always something.

Hope you are having a great day wherever you are.

Tidbit Tuesday

Just another installment of the random thoughts rolling around in my head today…

So much in my head today – I hardly know where to start. How about with pests? There are teeny, tiny little ants in the sink in my bathroom. They aren’t anywhere else and I can’t figure out where they are coming from.

The mice are still here with poop everywhere. One of them gnawed through a waterline in the mudroom and there was water everywhere when we got home from church. After cleaning that up and installing a new  metal line, we can’t get the recycling bins to slide back in. UGH.

I’m having second thoughts/major qualms about leaving for ten days – there is so much  financial work to finish, preparations for food/laundry/child care to take care of and then the big hurdle – the family drama. I just don’t know if now is the right time for me to be gone.  I feel like I am asking too much of others and that makes me uncomfortable. It is really hard for me to ask for help. I always wonder what people are thinking about me when I need help. I know that sometimes I say yes even though I want to say no and I wonder if they are doing the same.  It just makes it hard for me to do it.

The family drama is keeping me in a state of limbo – I need to make a decision and then start taking the steps that follow from that decision.  Not having any time to be alone lately isn’t helping either.  It is really hard for me to function without that daily alone time. Perhaps I should have stuck to my earlier life plan – becoming a nun. Although there is the big problem of not being Catholic nor wanting to convert that kept me from following that plan.

Oh, well, I need to get moving on something.  I’ll be back sometime to let you know how things work out.

The Quick Fix

I decided last spring to try to fix the problem of weeds in the orchard by planting a combination of johnny jump up, thyme and micro-clover seeds. The hope was that the seed mix would take over and  crowd out the weeds. I figured I would need to pull some weeds but that  they would be fewer and fewer as time went on. Maybe that would have happened if  I had been able to do the work of pulling the weeds out over the course of the summer. Instead I came down with Lyme Disease and was not able to do much of anything outside last year.

Then came the bitterly cold days of winter and lots of snow, followed by rain, rain, rain this spring. All of that led to an explosion of weeds in the orchard, berry, veggie and flower beds. It seemed like an overwhelming task and I had to decide where to concentrate my energies. Since there are several dead trees that need to be removed from the orchard, I decided to let it go and start elsewhere. Today I ventured out to the orchard to begin working.

As I was pulling weed after weed, it occurred to me that my quick fix – planting the seed mix – had created another problem for me. I hadn’t considered the fact that not only would the mix spread and crowd out weeds but it would spread into areas where I don’t want it to be. Now I need to come up with a way to keep it out of the flower beds. That led me to think of other quick fixes that create problems down the line and how my life seems to be full of them.

I have an argument with a family member and feel sad,  my quick fix- some kind of chocolate/sugar concoction that leads to feeling discouraged because I want to lose some weight and that will not help me reach that goal.

I’m tired and don’t have the energy to be consistent in training my children, my quick fix- just do the job for them which leads to children who do not participate in the daily upkeep of the house and their stuff.

I don’t want to deal with a tantrum/argument, my quick fix- let them do something that I know I shouldn’t  and that leads to children who question every request and feel entitled to more than they deserve.

I feel stressed by any of the above, my quick fix- hop on the computer or disappear into the pages of a book which leads to work not done, feelings of disgust and a sense of hopelessness.

I need to stop reaching for the quick fix and start carefully considering my actions. I need to look ahead and see where the choice I’m making is going to lead and decide if that is where I want to go. I need to think through the situations before I’m in them and come up with some alternative fixes so I’m not falling back into bad habits. A tall order but one that needs to be filled.

What about you? Do you have any quick fixes that you need to change? What is your plan? Any advice for me? I’m open to suggestions so please share in the comments. Thanks

Space – One Word 2014

I chose space as my one word for this year.  As I wrote at the beginning of the year —

I want to finally finish my space – the loft where I have been slowly clearing stuff out and thinking of how to set it  up for my purposes. I want to make space in my closets, on my shelves, in my project containers and elsewhere. I want to create space in my schedule for creative pursuits, for reading, for self-care activities and family. I want to create a space that is peaceful, loving and restorative for my family to come home to.

I have made some progress – the loft is almost clear of stuff that doesn’t belong to me. There are definite areas set up so I can exercise, read, sew, quilt, scrapbook and do other creative activities. I’ve cleaned out my winter wardrobe and have more closet and shelf space. I’m working on creating space in my schedule – I need to remember that I cleared time for me and not give it away to others. I’m still working on what a peaceful/loving/restorative home  means and looks  to us as a family. Not everyone agrees and I want to try to honor each of us in some way. It’s a work in progress.

Did you choose a word for this year?  What kind of progress have you made – please share in the comments.

 

Books read

Motiv8n’ U  by Staci Boyer – another self-help book – what can I say – I love them but I need to start working on doing what I’m reading. Several great quotes that went up on my vision board.

Stash Envy and Other Quilting Adventures by Lisa Boyer – humorous look at quilters and quilting

How To Master Your Muck by Kathi Burns – Best take away – “Umbrella Days” – blocking out time periods that are used for specific tasks. Heard it before but it really resonated with me this time around.

The Buzz by Thelma Wells – interesting combination of  bee related facts and scripture to help you solve problems you are experiencing

402 Down and 1098 To Go

Measure Up Monday – a semi-regular feature where I update the progress of  one or more of my goals.

I located yet another tiny piece of paper with some books I’ve  read and  just spent half an hour updating my  list and hopefully it is now up to date. When I started this blog one of my 6 goals was to read 1500 books, so far I have read 402.

So far this year I have read 42 books – not a pace I am likely to keep up but a good dent in my goal for the year. I  have read a lot of fiction lately. I tend to read those books in one sitting because I hate be kept hanging – I want to know how it ends and I want to know now! This is good for my reading goal but not so good for my fitness goals, the cleanliness of my house or the nutrition of my family.

I will try to get a review post up later this week although it will just include my non-fiction reads because there are just too many fiction books and it is harder for me to review them.

What have you been reading lately? How do you fit reading into your life? I’d love to hear from you and perhaps get some new ideas.

Tuesday Tidbits

Another installment of the random thoughts rolling around in my head…

I have been having a very hard time sticking to any kind of schedule so far this year. The weather continues to wreak havoc with my attempts to get into any kind of routine. It is hard to get up the energy to take walks in the bitter cold and I definitely don’t feel like going to the pool. The one day I did manage to get myself there, the water was cold – some sort of problem with the heating system and I haven’t wanted to go back since.

I have been spending time in my loft space – trying to get it fixed up but mostly I’ve been doing anything but work on the stuff that needs put away.

Wishing I had some more motivation/willpower/discipline/desire, anything that would help me to get a bit more done. I don’t think I’m slipping back into a depression – my mood is still okay but the energy is gone and I can’t seem to get myself moving most days.

Enjoying reading a series from a fellow WordPresser – A Plant A Day Till Spring- have been loving the pictures, poetry and information http://chriscondello.wordpress.com/2014/02/11/a-plant-a-day-till-spring-day-54-tansy/

Did get a gardening catalog with a birdbath/fountain that I am thinking about getting for the garden but I’m struggling with the decision. On the one hand we already have a birdbath so why spend money on another one? However, the one we have is old, needs cleaned/painted and is just blah. I would enjoy looking at the new one but  is it worth spending that much money when there are things that we actually need? On the other hand, I would get enjoyment from it and might spend more time weeding and getting garden tasks done. Decisions, decisions, decisions.

How about you dear readers – do you struggle with spending money on decorative items? I’m curious to know what you think.

MUMday

Measure Up Monday – How am I doing on my goals?

November Goals

1. Pack up all the yard sale stuff and have it picked up by a charity – made a start on this and got 7 boxes of stuff out the door and on a truck to  charity

2. Sort, organize and store my fabric

3. Go through the year to date tax receipts and get them organized – have all my receipts in one place, just need to get them organized by category, organized

4. Create a master list of to dos

 

Well, November was not a productive month. I did get one goal completely done but the other 3 still have a long way to go.  I’m not setting any goals other than Christmas related stuff this month.  That will be enough to keep me busy.  I will be trying to think of some things to shoot for next year but I’m not going to stress about it. What gets done gets done and if I’m setting 2014 goals when I go on retreat mid-January that will be okay with me. I’m going to try and enjoy the rest of this year.

 

 

Fitness Failure

I am a failure at fitness. I have not made progress in my attempts to do something – anything on a regular basis. I have been pondering this for quite awhile but not coming up with any real answers.

Yesterday I listened to someone talking about how to get anything you want. She mentioned the words we use and how they cause us to move or not move towards our goals. Saying “I can’t…” usually really means “I won’t…” or “I don’t…” We need to really examine our thoughts to see what is driving them.

Later on, I was talking with my son about a poor choice he had made. He said “Why do I always want to do the wrong thing?” It made me think about my struggles and I told him that everyone has choices to make and no one always makes the right choice but we need to recognize and learn from our poor choices.

Thinking about those two incidents brings me to the realization that I don’t have the desire to make losing weight a priority right now. I know all the reasons I should and I agree with most of them but it is not a priority for me right now. Right now I am struggling with getting the minimum done each day and then tackling my backlog of tasks. Not having to pay late fines is more important than losing a pound or 2 or more.

I am stepping away form the scale and the pedometer and taking some time to focus on taking of some financial and housekeeping items and maybe I’ll get back to adding fitness in a few weeks when it is a bit warmer and I can get outside to do some things.

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