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Stupid Tax

“Stupid Tax”  is a term I first heard while listening to Dave Ramsey. As I recall, it refers to money you’ve paid out because you did something stupid. I just paid what is hopefully the last installment of stupid tax as it applies to my daughter’s first car. Last year was the beginning of this sad saga. We traveled about an hour so she could buy a 1998 Dodge Neon that needed work – it ran but it needed work. She had an insurance quote but that wasn’t acceptable so I ended up agreeing to put the car in my name and have the title transferred to her at a later date. That was the first stupid decision. I didn’t want to have to drive back out there again so I signed the title.

Then there was the drama of thinking it was stolen only to discover that it had been “borrowed” and now needed a new tire and the moon roof fixed  plus the original work still needed done. But of course there was no money for all of that. The car sat under my carport for months while my car sat out in the weather unprotected. Second stupid decision. Third stupid decision – should have turned in the plates and taken the car off of our insurance after several months of nonuse but instead just kept on paying the insurance.

Finally tell my daughter that she needs to do something or I will give it to charity. She says she is going to get a new tire. I check into donating the car but am discouraged by the scams and the need to actually do something outside of my comfort zone.  A month and a half go by and  my husband decides to get her a tire so she can drive herself to his shop since he gave her a job there. Ongoing bad decision – I still haven’t transferred the title into her name.

Again she gets a flat tire plus somehow the driver’s  side mirror gets hit and  ends up hanging down. She decides to get another car and leaves the neon parked outside of a friend’s house. Says she may sell it to another friend or perhaps donate it.  Then life hits me with my father’s illness and death. Time goes by and I realize that she isn’t going to do anything and I have to. I want to get it done before it needs a new registration but I dither around and take too long.

I needed to go get  information  for the cash for junk car people  and asked her to go with me because I knew  she needed to get stuff out of the car. She said she was going the next day so of course I put off going to see  about it because she could get the information for me and I didn’t want to go out of my comfort zone. She forgets to get one necessary piece of information but assures me her friend will get it for us.  I don’t hear from her so I decide to just go get it myself. I drive out there only to discover the car is not there! Start wondering  – was  it stolen?? Probably not, it had the flat tire and wasn’t in the best shape who would steal it? Did it get towed because it was thought to be abandoned? Did she actually do something with it? Call her – of course no answer. Text and then wait and wait. Finally she texts back that she meant to call because it got towed.

Made several calls(way out of my comfort zone as I have a serious phone phobia) without finding out exactly what happened to the car. Ended up at the police station since no one answered the phone – I didn’t call 911 because I didn’t think that was an appropriate reason to call them. I don’t have GPS or a smart phone so I check the computer for directions and head out. It wants me to go the wrong way on a one way street and then I can’t find a place to park. Then since it is a small town there wasn’t actually an officer available and I  had to wait awhile. The officer knew exactly which car it was and directed me to a tow station in the next borough.

Finally make it to the garage and he tells me that it would probably cost me more to pay the fines and storage costs and have someone tow it out of there than what the junk car dealer would give me. I was ready to be done with the whole thing so I end up paying for the tow, he takes off the storage fees and I sign over the car. Hopefully that is the last bit of time, money and energy I’ll have to put into that car. Oh no, not the last – I still have to call the insurance company and take the car off the insurance. UGH!

Tidbit Tuesday

Just another installment of the random thoughts rolling around in my head today…

I’m looking out at the bright sunshine and thinking I should take a walk but I don’t feel like bundling up and braving the cold – maybe later…

As much as I complained about the hubby wanting a carport over other home improvements, I must agree that it is nice not to have to scrape off the ice/snow in the morning.

I’m another year older and hopefully I’m becoming another year smarter. Got a lovely birthday surprise from my hubby to start the day and then spent a relaxing day at home. We went out to lunch the day after and it was very yummy.

There was a lot of family drama over the past two months and the short story is that the girl turned eighteen, moved out and now is thinking about dropping out of school. She is only 6 months from graduating and being eligible for $30,ooo towards further schooling. I’ve been trying to get her to go back to finish and just might have convinced her to do cyber school. I’m hopeful but I’m also coming to terms with the fact that I have no control over this decision and I have to let her make it and face the consequences on her own. Tough thing for this mommy to accept.

As usual Monday was a productive day – several financial tasks done, laundry and some cleaning done, decluttered and tossed one shelf worth of stuff, got information about a possible way to get the girl to graduate, got closer to being caught up with my email, set tentative lunch dates with two friends and most surprising made five phone calls!

To some of you that last item may not seem like much but for me it is a major milestone. I have a serious phone phobia – I absolutely hate to make phone calls. I get all nervous and frazzled, thinking I’m going to interrupt someone, be a bother to someone, say something stupid, forget something important, etc. I write out little scripts so I don’t forget things, call when I know I’ll get an answering machine, try to use email whenever possible or try to get someone else to do it for me. The ability to text is about the only good reason for having a cellphone! Anyway, I bit the bullet yesterday and took care of a few things that had to be done by phone. I’d like to be able to say it wasn’t that bad but it was. I had to make three calls to set up an appointment for the cat because I got frazzled the first time and then didn’t check my calendar the second time.

Unfortunately, I’ve fallen into the Tuesday slump. I have a tendency to be productive on Monday and then turn into a sloth on Tuesdays. I got everyone out the door but haven’t really accomplished anything since they left. In the past I would have a long list of things I would say I wanted to do but would end up doing very few. This year I’m trying to stick with three task along with my daily stuff(laundry, tidying up and dinner). If I do more than that(like I did yesterday) well that’s great but if I only do the daily and my big three that’s okay.

Today’s tasks are – writing this blog post, getting a blood test and picking up pet supplies. I can’t get my blood test until 1pm and there’s no sense in making two trips out so I’m waiting to pick up pet supplies till after the blood test. I should have started the daily stuff but I can’t decide what to make for dinner and I don’t feel like tidying up or stripping the bed to do laundry.

One thing I’m trying to remember this year is to accept the feeling and then go ahead and do the work anyway. Sometimes the feeling comes after I get started and sometimes it never does come. It doesn’t matter if it does or not because the tasks need to be done either way. One of the changes I need to make if I’m going to make progress on my goals. Still haven’t decided on my one word but these two – changes and progress are leading the pack.

Wow, this is becoming quite lengthy – time to get away from the computer and get to work. Until next time – have a great day!

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