I decided last spring to try to fix the problem of weeds in the orchard by planting a combination of johnny jump up, thyme and micro-clover seeds. The hope was that the seed mix would take over and crowd out the weeds. I figured I would need to pull some weeds but that they would be fewer and fewer as time went on. Maybe that would have happened if I had been able to do the work of pulling the weeds out over the course of the summer. Instead I came down with Lyme Disease and was not able to do much of anything outside last year.
Then came the bitterly cold days of winter and lots of snow, followed by rain, rain, rain this spring. All of that led to an explosion of weeds in the orchard, berry, veggie and flower beds. It seemed like an overwhelming task and I had to decide where to concentrate my energies. Since there are several dead trees that need to be removed from the orchard, I decided to let it go and start elsewhere. Today I ventured out to the orchard to begin working.
As I was pulling weed after weed, it occurred to me that my quick fix – planting the seed mix – had created another problem for me. I hadn’t considered the fact that not only would the mix spread and crowd out weeds but it would spread into areas where I don’t want it to be. Now I need to come up with a way to keep it out of the flower beds. That led me to think of other quick fixes that create problems down the line and how my life seems to be full of them.
I have an argument with a family member and feel sad, my quick fix- some kind of chocolate/sugar concoction that leads to feeling discouraged because I want to lose some weight and that will not help me reach that goal.
I’m tired and don’t have the energy to be consistent in training my children, my quick fix- just do the job for them which leads to children who do not participate in the daily upkeep of the house and their stuff.
I don’t want to deal with a tantrum/argument, my quick fix- let them do something that I know I shouldn’t and that leads to children who question every request and feel entitled to more than they deserve.
I feel stressed by any of the above, my quick fix- hop on the computer or disappear into the pages of a book which leads to work not done, feelings of disgust and a sense of hopelessness.
I need to stop reaching for the quick fix and start carefully considering my actions. I need to look ahead and see where the choice I’m making is going to lead and decide if that is where I want to go. I need to think through the situations before I’m in them and come up with some alternative fixes so I’m not falling back into bad habits. A tall order but one that needs to be filled.
What about you? Do you have any quick fixes that you need to change? What is your plan? Any advice for me? I’m open to suggestions so please share in the comments. Thanks